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What Do I Do When Sexual Temptation Keeps Coming Back?

You have repented, meant it, and found the same thing back a week later. That cycle wears people down faster than the temptation itself does, and it is where most of the despair around this question comes from.

Stop treating recurrence as failure. Temptation returning is not evidence that repentance did not take or that something is broken in you. The first distinction is the oldest one: temptation is not sin. The feeling arriving is not the choice. Collapsing those two generates enormous shame, and shame is the least effective fuel available for actually changing anything.

Eternal Truths

Temptation is common to everyone, and God provides a way out of it. Paul wrote that no temptation has taken you that is not common to all, and that God will make a way to escape (1 Corinthians 10:13). A way out implies a route, which implies you can plan it in advance.

Sometimes the answer is to leave the room. Joseph in Egypt did not out-argue Potiphar’s wife. He ran (Genesis 39:7-12). It is deliberately unheroic. Most plans fail because they rely entirely on willpower deployed at the worst possible moment.

There is no point past which you cannot return. Elder Dieter F. Uchtdorf taught that Satan tries to convince people who have sinned that they have passed a point of no return, and that because of Christ’s Atonement a safe return is always possible (“Point of Safe Return”).

What Can Make This Confusing?

Sexual images are now everywhere and free, which is a genuinely new condition and not one anyone chose. It is easy to conclude that because the pull is constant, resistance is hopeless, and because you have failed before, you will fail always. That reasoning is what keeps a pattern running longer than desire does.

Questions to Think About

• Which forty minutes of my week does this reliably live in?
• What would I have to change about my surroundings, rather than my resolve?
• Who is the one person I could tell the truth to about this?

What You Can Do

Make one decision this week while you are calm, and make it about circumstances rather than willpower. Change what your phone can reach after midnight. Move where you study. Then tell someone: a bishop where repentance is needed, the Church’s addiction recovery resources where the pattern has become compulsive, a licensed therapist where there is trauma underneath it (Addiction). Involving another person is the single strongest predictor of change. The essay behind this answer covers the longer work.

Jesus Christ does not get tired of you coming back, and He is far more interested in where you are heading than in how many times you have started.